How to support children’s self confidence and self esteem in schools
Understanding the levels of confidence and self esteem in children can be difficult and if you are at all concerned that your child might be lacking in confidence and self esteem, don’t worry, there are some things you can do to support them.
At home, you can help your child with activities that they’re not so confident about doing at preschool (because practice makes perfect), talk through worries, give them small chores to be responsible for and nurture their interests by taking an interest.
The Winchmore Hill Preschool has years of experience within the child care and child education sector and has put together information on raising a confident child, so that your child can be as confident at school as they are at home.
Identify what self esteem looks like in children
Firstly, it’s important to understand that it’s not as black and white as it sounds. Children can flit between these two lists but if you spot that your child has been exhibiting more low self esteem symptoms than high self esteem symptoms, then there are things you can do to support them.
High self esteem in children looks like:
- Positive outlook on themselves
- Willing to try something different
- Makes friends easily
- Happy with people and alone
- Not too bothered by change
- Not phased by mistakes, willing to try again
- Takes pride in their work
Low self esteem in children looks like:
- Negative outlook on themselves
- Finds it hard to make friends
- Often sits apart from others
- Failure pushes them back a step
- New things are nerve-wracking
- Feels that others do things better
- Often shy and quiet in new places
Compare these lists and see for yourself if you can see anything you recognise in your child. It might be the case that they don’t fit the entire criteria for high self esteem or low self esteem, and that’s completely normal.
Ways to boost confidence and self esteem in children
Here are some simple things that you can do at home to help your child’s overall confidence and self esteem that will have a positive effect on them in school too!
Practice activities at home
If your preschool teacher has mentioned that your child is struggling with something in particular at nursery, you may want to give it a try at home where they’re likely to feel more comfortable. Be sure to sit down with them and do it too. By showing them that you’re willing to give the activity a go will prove to them that it’s not so scary and, in turn, the results of the drawing or writing (whatever the activity may be) will be better than it was before. By making things feel more achievable, your child is likely to grow in confidence and feel happier to give it a go next time they’re at preschool.
Talk through worries
If your child had a bad day, speak to them about it. It might be the case that something didn’t go to plan, that another child said something that hurt their feelings or that they’re confused about something. Whatever is on their mind, try to relate your previous experience to them so that they don’t feel so alone and can gain a better understanding of what they should do to overcome their worries.
Give children chores
Children love to copy – which is why they love a good game of Simon Says. So to make your child feel useful around the home, give them a couple of tasks for them to do. Whether that’s wipe the table or put their toys away in their toy box, they can feel like they’ve accomplished something. By trusting them to such tasks you’re showing them that you have confidence in their abilities which will have a knock-on effect and boost their confidence and self esteem.
Put time aside to nurture their interests
Pay attention to what your child is good at and what they enjoy doing. By offering them the opportunity to do more of what they love both inside school and outside, they can further develop their strengths which will help them to feel good about themselves. Sometimes when we focus on what we’re not good at, we forget what we are good at, and it can reduce our self esteem.
Contact The Winchmore Hill Preschool
At The Winchmore Hill Preschool we have a passion for raising confident children and boosting self esteem, which is why we offer a wide range of activities so your child can find where their interests lie and have the courage to try new things in a supportive environment. Our range of activities include art, literacy, mathematics, performing arts and plenty more!
If you want your child to have a strong start in their education, contact our dedicated team at The Winchmore Hill Preschool for more information. In the meantime, you can take a virtual tour of our premises and view our promises and responsibilities page to get a better feel for who we are and how we can positively impact your children’s early years of learning.